The individual discussed seeking support for living with an asexual spouse, considering celibacy, divorce, charity sex, hoping for change, or ethical non-monogamy. They described their spouse’s consent for non-monogamy but expressed concerns about complications and STIs. The discussion concluded positively, aiming to move towards a fulfilling intimate life.
A person bravely came out as bisexual to their wife, who took it in stride due to her exposure to diverse sexualities. The decision was fueled by the need for honesty and to relieve personal burden. The spouse’s nonchalant acceptance signaled a maintained bond, and no major changes were expected. The individual found closure after a year-long journey.
I just had another hour conversation with her. She agreed or accepted that she’s asexual. She just doesn’t need sex.
The author had their first virtual therapy session, addressing concerns about their spouse’s low libido, open marriage possibilities, and their own emotional journey. They struggled with communication and relationship issues but made progress after a tense conversation, making agreements and improving intimacy. However, setbacks occurred due to illness and old habits, leaving uncertainty about the future.
The author shares their experience of chatting on social media platforms like Sniffies and Grindr, initially connecting with a man who lives an hour north. They later met at a mall, but the man’s engagement deteriorated after a short meeting. The author now feels the pain of not being able to meet in person, as they have cameras on their house and struggle to leave without suspicion. They feel forced to engage in hookups and randoms, which are more dangerous. The author is unsure if they are doing it wrong or if they have better prospects.
The author expresses dissatisfaction with the frequency of sexual intimacy in their marriage, feeling neglected and undervalued. Their spouse regularly claiming tiredness as a reason for the lack of intimacy has led to feelings of rejection, despite the possibility of asexuality being the cause. The author, tempted to seek connections elsewhere, is considering potential fallout, including infidelity stigma for bisexual males. Alongside marriage issues, the author is dealing with work-related stress and sleep problems, raising concerns about the impact on their mental health and the perceived state of their marriage.
I don’t remember how it started or why I thought to start doing it, but I most certainly probably started
Looking back, it was always there from the beginning. I remember looking at the women in bras in the JC
No and current plans are to keep it that way. I’m not sure how she will react, and my research